Our minds are a battlefield. Satan loves to distract, to tempt, to overwhelm and entice. God longs for us to be very intentional about what we think about (as in take every thought captive) and to fix our minds on what matters most. Doing (and reviewing) personal vision work is a vital tool to bring the right thoughts to our minds more and more often. That practice gives us a much better chance at doing the God-honoring and life-giving thing more and more of the time. In my opinion, solid vision habits are foundational to flourishing.
The question is of course how do you do vision work? I’m so glad you asked.

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Life to the full and flourishing go hand in hand. And, part of what brings us life is actually helping others flourish. That raises a really important question: What if you were asked to “design” the perfect person to help people flourish? Seriously. Well, actually, that would be one substantial undertaking. For example, what kind of person would he or she need to be, in terms of their character? What perspectives or wisdom would he or she absolutely need to have? And, finally, what would he or she have to be able to do, to help someone completely flourish?
But, if you really knew what the person was like, you’d have a better idea about where how you need to grow to get better at one of the most important things you can do with your life.

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At first blush, you wouldn’t think this would be a big deal. Or, you’d think it would be easy to do. You’d think people would just get it. But boy, that rarely seems to be the case.
How you say goodbye to important people in your life powerfully shapes their entire experience of you and your relationship. If you’re remotely interested in encouraging people and strengthening ties when your life calls you to say goodbye–whatever the transition is–please read on.

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It was a tremendously shocking and sobering half hour. It started out with reading the sad news about R.C. Sproul Jr. confessing the presence of his name on Ashley Madison’s site, which linked me to Christianity Today’s Gleanings page, where I soon learned about the recent affair and subsequent divorce of Tullian Tchividjian, (a well-known pastor who happens to be Billy Graham’s grandson), which then led to an even more sobering and disturbing account of how a Christian college president was called out on an affair by his own son, who actually used his cell phone to video the confrontation. Oh man. That half hour was brutal.
While there are a number of ways to go with this really painful topic, one major response has to be, how in the world can Christian leaders, or all leaders for that matter, not fall into these terrible traps? Traps that leave lives, marriages, families, churches and campuses simply devastated. Traps that make finishing well almost impossible.

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